22 May 2007

Thin = Happy?

Weight - 252.8 Lbs
Exercise - 2.2 miles on the 'thing'

Good evening dear reader,

When out flitting across (even through maybe?) the blogospshere (ohh i do like that word!) I am coming across a lot of activity and discussion centered around Body Image, Fat Acceptance, Happiness equaling Thinness and the such like.

I must admit that I have never really thought deeply about these matters before embarking on this project.

What really made me think more deeply about this subject was recently reading this post from Sunshine at THE ME I WAS MEANT TO BE.

Here's an extract :-

"I don't want that worldly confidence that people get from great looks and bodies or accolades from the world."

I found this post painful to read and I hope she finds away out of where she finds herself but I think she is absolutely wrong if she equates weight loss with happiness or acceptance.

Leaving aside the question of what is a great body (we could talk about that all day!).. is there anything to connect body image with happiness? I am happy now but VERY unhealthy - my attempt to lose weight is about me improving my health and living longer and has next to nothing to do about how I or others perceive me - is this common or am I 'weird' as my wife likes to call me!

I think this whole question gets some way to the root of human existence (sorry if that sounds pretentious) .....

Are we unhappy because of the way we are or are we the way we are because we are unhappy?

I have until very recently suffered from the blight of what I believe is 'over-thinking' - I would consider every possible outcome of a given situation before acting, usually by which time, the person, opportunity, offer, situation had left, disappeared and /or expired!

This trait leads to a spiral of doubt ,worry and finally depression which, as we all know leads inexorably for many to over-eating and obesity.

I know it is easy to say, but happiness really does come from inside you and true happiness comes from expressing love and compassion for others in our daily lives (HELP, my head has been taken over by a Buddhist monk - don't leave me here!!!).

The monk told me to tell you this, from HH the Dalai Lama.........

“I believe that the very purpose of life is to be happy. From the very core of our being, we desire contentment. In my own limited experience I have found that the more we care for the happiness of others, the greater is our own sense of well-being. Cultivating a close, warm-hearted feeling for others automatically puts the mind at ease. It helps remove whatever fears or insecurities we may have and gives us the strength to cope with any obstacles we encounter. It is the principal source of success in life. Since we are not solely material creatures, it is a mistake to place all our hopes for happiness on external development alone. The key is to develop inner peace.”
I would be interested to know if you think losing your excess weight will make you 'happy' or more successful in any way? Add a comment if you like.

Pictures only tomorrow as I dipping my toe in the Wordless Wednesday waters. Check back to see some wonders as seen through my lens...


Celeste said...

Was looking for Wordless.
I am unhappy with my weight. I know losing weight will not make me happy but it will make me healthier. My health helped to contribute to gaining weight(there are several issues)My losing is for me because of me not to make me happy or my hubby or anyone else.

Melanie said...

I am unhappy with my weight, but I am happy. I am losing weight because I want to be healthy and look better. But, I am happy either way.
Depdending on how overweight a person is, I think success can be dependent on your weight.
I love your question "Are we unhappy because of the way we are or are we the way we are because we are unhappy?" Really makes you think. But I think the answer is that we are the way we are because we are unhappy.

Donna. W said...

My husband has been overweight most of his life. Almost two years ago he and I set out to lose weight, and we did. He was 277 pounds. When he was around 230, he had to have quadruple bypass surgery. Since then, he's gotten down to 205 or thereabouts. What's interesting is that he still calls himself, and sees himself as, fat! And he isn't at all now. He just can't shake that mental image of himself.